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ZONE

imageDefinition: an area or stretch of land having a particular characteristic, purpose, or use, or subject to particular restrictions.

 

Whew, not sure about you but I have been a bit out of the ZONE this week with the recent time change.  I realize we gain an hour by falling back in the fall but it takes a week or so for my body to adapt.   I really feel for those of you with small children it makes your life a bit more difficult.  They are still waking up at their usual time yet the clock indicates an hour behind or they are hungry at 5:30 and dinner is normally scheduled for 6:30.  Maybe I should have selected adapt as my word for the week but instead while “Takin Time Out” and sipping on my warm savoring Zen Green Tea on this chilly November evening, I decided to write about the ZONE!  Stay with me please, I have some good stuff to share…

 

What comes to your mind when you think of the word ZONE?  Maybe such things as OZONE, Time ZONE, Twilight ZONE, School ZONE, War ZONE, End ZONE, Auto ZONE, Comfort ZONE, Buffer ZONE, ZONE Out or In the ZONE.  I love taking a less common word, thinking about how we use it in our vocabulary or apply to our daily lives.

 

I travel quite a bit, I prefer to drive the shorter distant trips rather than flying, this gives me plenty of time to think, listen to various podcasts, audiobooks, the radio or complete silence.  Yes, I love silence.  However, it is inevitable I will always run into a construction ZONE.  How many times have you driven for what seem to be miles and miles, with one lane of traffic and construction cones down the middle of the highway, construction equipment in the median but not a construction worker in sight right smack dab in the middle of the day?   Then there are always my commute around the metroplex, I have to plan ahead many times being cautious of where all the school ZONEs are while I am en-route early in the morning or around 3:00 pm to my next appointment.  If I happen upon one of these whether it be a construction or school ZONE, instead of being irritated for these little interruptions, I take a deep breath, slowing down a bit, realizing it does provide more time to learn patience, and be thankful for progress.  I contribute to my belief system everything truly happens for a reason.

 

Also, while traveling about how many times do we hit a dead ZONE with the cell service, maybe you are right in the middle of a conversation and all of a sudden you ask a question and no one is on the other end or you try to call out and it is hung in space somewhere?  There are other Dead ZONEs more commonly known as hypoxia which refers to a reduced level of oxygen in the water.  Animal and plant life suffocates and dies off.  One of the largest dead ZONEs forms is found in the Gulf of Mexico and is approximately the size of the state of Connecticut.  It typically will happen in the spring and some scientists feel humans pay tribute by fertilizing their crops and excess nutrients may run off.   The intensity can vary from year to year.  However, it can happen naturally another large dead ZONE is found bordering Jordan, Palestine and Israel known as the Dead Sea.  It has attracted visitors from around the Mediterranean basin for thousands of years.  Did you know it was one of the world’s first health resorts for Herod the Great?  There is a wide variety of products people have made from the salt and minerals such a balms for Egyptian mummification to cosmetics and herbal sachets.  I find this to be amazing.

 

In the Bible the Dead Sea goes by many different names:

  • In the book of Genesis, the Dead Sea is called the Vale of Siddim: “All these were joined together in the Vale of Siddim, which is the Salt Sea” (Genesis 14:3).
  • In the book of Joshua, the Dead Sea is called the Plains Sea: “That the waters which came down from above stood and rose up upon an heap very far from the city Adam, that is beside Zaretan: and those that came down toward the Sea of the Plain, even the Salt Sea, failed, and were cut off: and the people passed over right against Jericho” (Joshua 3:16).
  • The book of Zechariah refers to the location as the Former Sea (i.e., meaning “early”; the Hebrew root q.d.m.  means “early” or “before” and thus also refers, spatially, to the east, where the sun rises. Therefore, the phrase “Former Sea” indicates that the Dead Sea is located in the eastern part of the land of Israel): “And it shall be in that day, that living waters shall go out from Jerusalem; half of them toward the Former Sea, and half of them toward the hinder sea: in summer and in winter shall it be” (Zechariah 14:8).

 

Well we are in the height of one of my favorite sports football season, I love cheering for my favorite team whether it be our local pee wee or school team, the famous NFL but I have to say College is my favorite especially when the underdog pulls out an amazing win.  Nothing better than a fantastic catch right before Halftime and that amazing run right into the END ZONE…Score!  Can’t you hear the crowd roaring and the band playing?

 

Speaking of halftime, I am well into my second halftime of life. While “Takin Time Out” I have a habit of reflecting on where I am and where I want to be and how I am going to get there.  Last week we addressed the word Fear and how it can paralyze us from moving forward but there is another area called our Comfort ZONE I would like to talk about.  How many of you would say the older we get the more we live our daily lives in the Comfort ZONE?  The mental space we live in where there are boundaries and you feel a sense of emotional security with your work and your decision making?  I will admit it is cozy and safe in this little box we have built.  However, are we becoming a little more complacent and way to comfortable?  Taking things for granted?

What changes would you like to make or items on your bucket list you haven’t completed?  What is holding you back?  Don’t park permanently in your Comfort ZONEs.

 

Please do not misunderstand me, I am not implying your comfort ZONE is a bad thing.  I am simply pointing out your comfort ZONE maybe holding you back from learning or experiencing new things and preventing you from becoming more of what God has created you to be.

 

Here are a few things to consider in asking yourself if your comfort ZONE is holding you back:

Excessive Stress

Boredom

Settling

Mediocrity

Are you always tired

Depression

Self-criticism

Excuses and lots of them!

A stagnant or failing business or relationship

Envy

Anxiety or Fear of your situation

 

If I have hit a nerve maybe it is time to take a deep breath and begin to stretch… I am encouraging you to put on a new set of spectacles and envision your life of thriving not just surviving!  Let’s step out of the Comfort ZONE into another wide open adventure of passion, success, excitement, fulfillment, purpose, freedom, self-discovery and truly making a difference in this world!  Can’t you feel your adrenaline rising or a spark of enthusiasm, I hope so.  I encourage taking baby steps and accept that we are less than perfect.

 

Let’s do a fun little exercise, you will need a timer, pen and paper or if you are tech savvy you may use your computer.  I call this dumping or downloading and for the next ten minutes just start typing or writing all those dreams, desires or things you would like to do or be…no rules…let’s get a bit crazy…after all we are stepping outside that comfort ZONE!  What is it going to hurt you are only taking action by releasing it from your mind or heart and putting it down on paper…NOW BEGIN!

 

STOP…ten minutes are up!  Whew…take a deep breathe congratulations you did it!  You have taken the first step in crossing the line outside your comfort ZONE.  How does it feel?  I know a bit strange…

 

For those who didn’t participate you may be thinking I have lost my mind and this is the dumbest blog you have ever read.  That is fine you can stay in your predictable space, knowing what is going to happen…that is fine by me.  It’s your loss not mine and you will never truly know what you are capable of until you try!

 

For those who did participate, now look at your list and choose one or two things you are going to work on and take action.   Set a date of when you are going to start.  Maybe find a buddy or accountability partner to help encourage you in breaking your barriers and stepping further out of the comfort ZONE.  You may want to choose someone you already know but maybe try someone new someone who won’t hold you back especially if your item is a bit crazy or adventurous.   Changes are good and it is always more fun with a friend!!

 

If you will spend just a few minutes each day visualizing your success and your dreams you will become more willing to take further action.  You have so much more potential than you give yourself credit…eventually you will find yourself operating in Your ZONE of Genius!  You are closer than you think in maximizing your performance of possibility and being in The ZONE and outside your comfort ZONE.

 

Well I must wrap it up for this week…I am in the ZONE and moving forward…I hope while you are “Takin Time Out” you will consider stepping outside your Comfort ZONE and maximize your potential until next time my dear friend don’t let the OZONE cloud your dreams…

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FEAR

imageDefinition: an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat; feel anxiety or apprehension, avoid or put off doing something because one is afraid.

Well I have to be very truthful with you I have started this blog on several different occasions, I am not sure if FEAR was holding me back or the expectation and anxiety it caused in writing about it.  Many times when I sit down and start to write my thoughts are running faster than my fingers can type but not when it came to this subject.  I think it is kinda funny how words have an affect on your emotions, feeling and thought process.  FEAR can paralyze you.

 

What comes to mind when you hear the word FEAR?  Are you naturally a FEARFUL person?  Do you have flash backs of times you were FEARFUL?  Maybe you are going through a situation right now and that rush of adrenaline is bubbling up to the surface as you are reading these words?

 

OK, just for a moment let’s do a visual exercise and pretend it is dark outside, the lights are dimmed and you are home alone.  All alone…The house is quiet, very quiet with the exception of the TV program you are watching, then all of a sudden the electricity goes off the TV is black, your eyes take a moment to adjust to the total pitch blackness and you suddenly hear the back door squeaking open…does your heart start racing, your breathing speeds up and your muscles tighten. Are you frozen or do you immediately jump up to see what is going on?  Eventually you realize there was a storm brewing outside and the wind had blown open the back door and caused the power outage.  Did you have for at least a split second the instance of FEAR before you realize there really was nothing to worry about…see our mind and imagination can play into these emotions?

 

Then there is the thrill FEAR factor, let’s say you are at a theme park and on the roller coaster ride you have just climbed to the top rung and right before for a split second it hesitates at the peak of its steep track…you know what is about to happen, there is no way to avoid it and it is time to hang on to the handrail, palms sweating, heart racing as you brace yourself for the wild exciting ride down.  Personally I avoid these types of rides at all cost but I have many friends and family that find the rush of FEAR exciting and can’t wait to be next in line for that thrill FEAR seeking ride.  They might also be the type to savor the scariest horror flicks, thrill of extreme sports and be the first to say let’s go to the haunted house tonight after all it is Halloween!

FEAR helps protect us.  It makes us alert to danger and prepare us to deal with it.  Feeling afraid is very natural, like all emotions it can be mild, medium or intense depending on the situation and the person.  It can be brief or last for a long time.  Many people can have a greater FEAR or phobias than others but many times it is triggered from trauma or circumstances in their early childhood and maybe never properly dealt with.  Again I realize FEAR is a vital response to physical or emotional danger and if we didn’t feel it we couldn’t protect ourselves from the legitimate threat.  But the majorities of time we FEAR situations that are far from life-or-death and hang back for no apparent reason.

imageThe FEAR I want to talk more about today is one that makes us powerless or weak the one I consider to be a very bad four letter word.  It causes you to be stuck, perhaps paralyzed or one where you are just not functioning properly.  That distressing emotion aroused by the unknown whether you are simply imagining it or it is actually real.  I personally feel FEAR is your mind simply playing games with you?  This is where Faith must step in and play such an important role in overcoming the bad form of FEAR.  In a recent article I read from Christian author and speaker, Joyce Meyer, she stated if you don’t remember anything else, remember that FEAR is not from God but from Satan.  Second Timothy 1:7 states “Every time you feel FEAR in your life, it’s a manifestation of the kingdom of darkness.”  She also goes on to say we need to resist FEAR and not be tormented with FEAR, this is not a part of God’s plan.  The phrase “do not be afraid” is written in the bible 365 times.  There are exactly 365 days in a year so think about it that each scripture is a daily reminder from God to live every day being FEARLESS.

 

Have you recently taken inventory in your life and especially in the FEAR department?  How many things have you not tried or done because of this little four letter word called FEAR?  What are we afraid of Failure…ridicule… loss or rejection?  But what if we find true success and happiness?  What is truly holding us back when FEAR has a grip on us so tightly?

 

In doing a little reading on FEAR did you know there are over four pages of things people are FEARFUL of…the list was endless just to name a few were FEAR of public speaking, thunderstorms, lack of something, loneliness, authority, commitment, heights, germs, closed spaces, flying, airplanes, animals, failure, and the list went on and on.  Living in Dallas we have many people who canceled plans because of the recent Ebola outbreak.  Now I realize we need to be logical and cautious but we also must walk in FAITH.  Isaiah 41:10 comes to mind “FEAR not for I am with you”.  God can bring us out of our bondage and into a life of freedom if we will only allow him to.

 

Let’s talk a little bit about FEAR of failure. Whenever I am faced with a new opportunity and FEAR tries to take hold and says I am not qualified or wise enough to do this…the little voice in my head keeps saying…YOU WILL Fail!  I think of the story of Milton Hershey…yes the man who created the lush taste of chocolate. Who hasn’t eaten a Hershey chocolate bar?  Did you know Milton Hershey had many failures in business before he started his famous chocolate company?  He grew up in Pennsylvania in the rolling hill countryside.  He actually studied to be a printer and he worked for a small newspaper and quickly decided this was not what he wanted to do for the rest of his life so he got a job in the candy factory.  He opened his first candy business near Philadelphia but it failed, he traveled to Denver, Colorado to learn to make caramels and took his skills back to New York selling candies on the street and it failed too.  He finally moved back home where he experimented with all sorts of different candies and chocolates.  There were several dairy farms which helped supply fresh milk.  In 1903 the same year the Wright Brothers flew the first airplane, Milton Hershey built a huge chocolate factory in Hershey, Pennsylvania where it is still the home of the famous Hershey Chocolate bar today.  This teaches a very valuable lesson to never never give up on our dreams and do not allow the FEAR of failure to paralyze you from moving forward.

As I was “Takin Time Out”, this week I really thought about this word.  Yes, our world is ever changing and things are not as they once were.  There are many things we can be FEARFUL about, the economy, war, being a victim, natural disasters, illness, etc.  I feel in our day to day life a small amount of FEAR or insecurity can be beneficial, in that it keeps us on our toes and motivated.  However, when FEAR and insecurity blocks common sense, the unhealthy thought processes clouds our judgment and truly prevents us from reaching our goals.  Many times I think we over think things.  Sure it is good to think things through but when we can’t act for thinking we will never be able to move forward.  We must learn the nature of FEAR before ever becoming FEARLESS.  When I am faced with FEAR or anxiety, I stop and ask myself what is the worst thing that could happen if it doesn’t work?  Yes, there may be some embarrassment, there may be pieces to pick up, some people might not like me and being a people pleaser that can be hard but then again what if it works?  You never know until you give in to FEAR and as Nike’s famous slogan state let’s “Just Do It!”

I know this is sometimes difficult to talk about or confess that we even are FEARFUL of certain things, situations or decisions we have to make.  I encourage you to seek WISE counsel if you are not able to move forward…talking through situations and especially with someone who is a professional, knowledgeable, experienced, or perhaps one who can relate may help give you the courage to take the first step.   Acknowledgement is first, asking for help is second, say your prayers and take a leap of faith even if it means doing it AFRAID!  YOU CAN DO THIS…

I am sipping on my scrumptious cup of hot savoring Green Tea…thinking again how FEAR has had a slight impact on my life and I am ready to make some changes…to view life through new lenses…lenses of full-fledge FAITH!  Start with something small like maybe trying a new recipe if you don’t cook much and the last few things you burned, if you are afraid of flying go to an airport and watch the planes come in and go out you don’t have to get on the plane but get used to the surroundings, maybe you got bucked off a horse as a child and never really wanted to ride again go to the stables pet the horse, brush or feed the horse get used to them then saddle up and walk it around the stable and before you know it you are back in the saddle again.  Let your mind and emotions embrace the reason for FEAR,  breathe deeply, pause and take that next step until you have overcome the situation.  You will then feel the emotion of VICTORY!

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Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do your FEAR.  I would love to hear from you on this word FEAR…Until next time my dear friends let your faith be BIGGER than your FEAR!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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KNOTS

imageDefinition: A fastening made by tying a piece of string, rope, or something similar.  A tangled mass in something such as hair.

 

Whew, what another hectic and busy week.  I am sitting here at my computer staring into the big screen while sipping on a delicious cup of Spiced Orange Tea, my stomach is in KNOTS and I have a stress KNOT in my shoulder area pondering what all I have to do.  How do I untie or untangle these KNOTS?  I really work at trying to find balance and making a true commitment to my motto in “TAKIN TIME OUT!”  Lately it just seems to be a bit more challenging than others.  Can you relate?  I find myself entangled in the crazy cycle and uphill battle of life.  So many demands so little time.  That is when my body becomes weary and my mind sometimes starts to think negative thoughts…I find myself focused on the destination instead of enjoy this journey.  I am crossing that one more thing off my “To Do List” instead of appreciating the ability to have so many things to do.

 

This past weekend, I was sorting through some papers and doing some reorganizing when I ran across a beautiful poem, it is perfect for this

Week’s blog on – “KNOTS!”

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This simple little prayer says so much.  The mind is so powerful and our thoughts and words we recite in our head day in and day out truly control the results we produce.

 

imageLet’s envision for a moment, a large pile of rubber bands, maybe shoestrings or better yet yarn.  To make it more fun each one is a variety of vibrant colors.  Each strand is a different element in our life, such as family, job, home, health, friends, commitments, etc.  They are all lying in a big ole pile and as we go through our journey in life they become jumbled up and some begin to get entangled with another and they have created a KNOT.  Those KNOTS may be problems or challenges and it is going to take time and effort to untie those KNOTS.  Time and effort you may be wishing you were spending on something else but life throws you curve balls along the way and you must focus on those KNOTS for the time being.  Sometimes it feels those KNOTS are tied so tightly and you are not making any progress but really you are, it takes time patience, focus and commitment to not give up.  We live in such a fast paced instant gratification world that we don’t like to wait on much but these challenges or KNOTS may have a mind of their own.  The KNOTS may not all be yours it maybe someone else’s and you have ended up entangled in their KNOT and not always by your choice, but you must learn to share in the experience.

 

Please be patient as I try to explain…maybe this is a little character lesson but I remember a storybook by Carl Sommer’s on “Tied Up In KNOTS”.

imageHere is a quick summary Benny and Sally don’t mind doing their farm chores and caring for their mules, but they absolutely refuse to share.  Their mules, Bossy and Stiffy, imitate their owners’ selfish ways by stubbornly refusing to let anyone else ride them, and fussing whenever they work together doing farm work.

Dad needs to teach the mules a lesson.  He ties them together which forces them to learn to cooperate in order to eat.  After much struggling, the mules learn to work together and teach their owners Benny and Sally that sharing brings happiness.  This delightful story shows importance of cooperation, tolerance and respect.

So maybe all those KNOTS in life, the struggles, the challenges, the difficulties are there for a reason to teach us something and for me personally to depend more on God.  To depend on his perfect will and timing!  Especially when you are entangled with someone else, you are there to uplift, to help to encourage and maybe not to untie the KNOT but create a stronger bond.  I love all the different types of KNOTS you can tie depending on the use.  KNOTS attached to a rope, connect to slings, secure tents, or create an anchor for boats and big ship liners.  Like the force in our galaxy, KNOTS surround us protect us and can bind us together.  Even in the most unbearable situations.

 

This last weekend we had the privilege in attending a beautiful wedding of our cousins, the couple were married by the justice of the peace two years ago but they both dreamed of that fairytale wedding, so they scrimped, saved and planned for this special day when they formally could tie the KNOT in front of their friends and family. It was absolutely beautiful, the pastor shared the scripture found in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up.  But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.  Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.  But how can one keep warm alone?  Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves.  A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.  The 3 strands stand for man, woman and God.  I absolutely believe this to be true for any marriage to succeed.  I am wishing them both much happiness and a blissful solid marriage.

We have a little Irish heritage and I have always been fascinated by the Celtic Art and the beautiful KNOTS they portray.  Celtic KNOT: a symbol of love and eternity, with no beginning and no end.  It is also known as the mystic KNOT, or the endless KNOT.  Have you had the privilege to really look at how spellbinding their art truly is?  Take a look at just a few of these.  Can you find the beginning or the end?

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Celtic art developed into a higher art form with the arrival of Christianity in 450 A.D. The Christians have long used art as a propaganda tool. From illustrated manuscripts to Michelangelo’s paintings in the Sistine Chapel, art has been a key medium for conveying God, the Holy Trinity and the connection between the earthly and heavenly realms. While visiting Ireland a few years back we had the opportunity to see on of the most famous work from this tradition.  The Celtic manuscript, the illustrious Book of Kells from the sixth century whose pages are decorated with Celtic art and KNOTS. The interlacing, continuous design is the symbol of the interconnectedness and continuity of life.  It also represents eternity and was simply amazing!

 

As a boy scout you have to learn six basic KNOTS to earn your merit badge.  There are the square KNOTS, bowline, sheet bend, clove hitch, two half hitches, and the taut-line hitch.  Thank goodness for my husband, I personally was amazed when I first got married we seemed to move every six months and he could pack a truck and tie some fancy KNOTS with a rope to secure our belongings.  Those were crazy times but I loved every moment and memory!

 

It is fall and I love to wear scarves depending on my mood may depend on the type of KNOT I use to secure the scarf around my neck.  It is an art if I say so myself.  I prefer a more loose fit and not too close to my neck or I feel as if I am being choked.  As I am typing I think about my adorable cousin and how cute she always looks in her scarf, but to take her real life experience please be careful while cooking with an open flame, the scarf gets too close it catches on fire.  Yes, true story she caught her scarf on fire…so number one lesson you can’t be too cute and cook at the same time! LOL…  I think back when my girls were smaller and learning to tie a perfect little square KNOT on the back of their dress.  My hubby wasn’t home, my son was going out and planning to wear a tie but neither one of us remembered how to tie one.  Thank goodness for YouTube…they walk you through step by step and walla he had it down and lookin good!

 

How many remember the TV series “KNOTS Landing” or the movie “NOTTING Hill”?  I remember as a child we went to California and visited “KNOTTS Berry Farm”, they always had the best jelly and jam.

 

Well I best wrap it up for this week.  I love blogging and releasing these crazy thoughts and things that ramble in my head.  The KNOT in my stomach has gone away, therapy pure therapy.  I hope you enjoy “Takin Time Out” this week and maybe you can learn to tie some fancy KNOTS or relax and release those stress KNOTS you may be carrying around as well.  Reread the simple KNOTS Prayer and know God can help you do amazing things with your life….release all those could NOTS, would NOTS and should NOTS that bind your life until next time my friend…Let’s ENJOY life a little bit more…

 

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MAIN STREET

imageDefinition: The principal street of a town, traditionally the site of shops, banks, and other businesses. The sections of a country centering about its small towns.

 

I know many of you may be thinking what an unusual topic for this week’s blog.  Not sure if it was the recent visit I had with Granny who is 105 and all the changes she has seen throughout her lifetime or while I was “Takin Time Out” this past week thinking about my childhood and how fortunate I was to live in a wonderful influential small tight knit community.  How many of you had the privilege of growing up in a small town?  Or perhaps you had the opportunity to visit relatives or friends in a small town.  Maybe you actually lived in a small town within a big city.  For example New York City has China town or Little Italy. There was a distinct energy that today, I personally feel is missing.  Maybe it is the sense of connection, being a part of something small with tighter relationships.  I always think of the sitcom “Cheers”, where everybody knows your name.  As you drive across America today it is sad to say the individual flavor I experienced has been lost to the commercial thicket of fast-food drive thru that serve up prepackaged food, to big-box metropolis of one stop shop and even mega churches projected on a big screen has taken the place of a pastor leading a small congregation to one pastor with assistant pastors reaching out virtually to anyone anywhere at any time.

 

 

The lost art of MAIN STREET, where we once experienced being able to be a true entrepreneur.  Unfortunately, we have settled for the new normal; big business superstores own us.  I know many of you will argue superstores have been able to lower the price, you have the ease of shopping for everything under one roof while having your oil changed and tires rotated, make your banking transaction, getting your nails done and haircut, weekly shopping…oh and let me not forget grab a quick bite to eat as well.  Yes, I call that convenience but I also would say the quality and personal satisfaction has greatly declined.  Enter the doors at your own risk.  How many of you have to dart back and forth from motorized wheelchairs, to supersized shopping carts and tired screaming children.  Not to mention unique outfits on supersized well maybe I won’t go there.   Personally, I am not a BIG fan…yes I usually have to make one trip a month to the superstore but I have to literally psych myself up each and every time and try to go very very early in the morning.  I miss small town MAIN STREET America.  You drive through any small town and most have store fronts boarded up, there may be one or two shops but for the most part it is a ghost town.  How did we allow this to happen?  I know interstates and by-passes hurt many small towns that catered to the frequent traveler.  Big business, self-service and greed have impacted it too.

 

Cheers to the small towns and those locals who fought or made a conservative conscientious effort to fight the general decline of MAIN STREET America.  It took hard work from activists and preservationists to acknowledge and help preserve the few cities and towns that have maintained a vibrant MAIN STREET and local merchants.  MAIN STREET is where you admire architecture and sample the local flavor of the community.  I find it ironic a few suburbs in the area I live are trying to bring back that same setting.  Most start out with a Town Square and then proceed with a MAIN STREET where storefronts on the first level and residential living areas above.  For the most part this is working but again the storefronts are usually the large chains.  I miss the distinct individual Mom and Pop type setting.

 

Growing up in Southeast Colorado, we had one MAIN STREET that was right smack dab in the middle of town.  It is a part of highway 287 so all traffic goes right through it.  We did not have a stop light just a speed limit of 25 miles per hour.  It was vibrant and alive we had two car dealerships; two pharmacies which included soda fountains, multiple independent merchants from clothing stores, shoe stores, dry goods, western wear, dry cleaners, gift shops, flower shops, beauty salon, hardware, auto parts and let’s not forget the local pool hall.  The gas stations actually pumped your gas, checked your oil, washed your window and you charged it on a tab not a credit card.   Speaking of fountains, how many of you remember “forget me knots” with fresh squeezed lemon and crushed ice, vanilla Pepsi or a suicide where you take each of the syrups and add carbonation whew that was deathly.  It’s a wonder we ever survived.    I miss the good ole days, there was competition yet it seemed a bit more simplified.  People truly cared more about their community than themselves and not just what’s in it for them.

 

We attended church three times a week, Sunday morning, Sunday night and Wednesday night.  They taught me the importance of being a part of a church body and later my relationship grew stronger and deeper with my Lord and Savior just as 1 Peter 2:2 states, “Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation.”  The church and their leaders laid a strong foundation.  Fortunately, my Mom and later my Dad played an important role by making sure I was in the house of the Lord.  Mom played the organ or piano whenever the doors were opened.  There were a few short months she actually would attend the Catholic Mass and play the organ for them then high tail it to our little Baptist Church where she played and we always sit on the second pew on the left side of church.  I remember when the pews didn’t have cushions; they were polished and slick, the hymnal was placed in the back side of the pew in front of you with the missions envelope and guest register with a pencil and communion cup holder.  We opened with singing a few hymns, the choir would sing their special and on occasion we would have a solo or duet, the preacher would preach, have a time of invitation then we sang the doxology prayed and then the pastor and his wife would go to the back of the church to greet each member of the congregation and shake their hands.  We would visit briefly and then head home traveling down MAIN STREET for Sunday lunch.  It usually was pot roast, potatoes, carrots, gravy, Jell-O salad and hot rolls  It was always served on the green Frankoma pottery dishes.  We lived on a ranch so the pattern fit well with our lifestyle.

 

One of my girlfriend’s parents owned a clothing and shoe store; she had a slumber party one night in which we slept downstairs well let’s say stayed not sure we slept much that night in their actual store.  It was so much fun we modeled clothes had a style show and the best part we crawled into the window display with the manikins and pretended we were one, then waive or wink at the local drunks who were leaving the bar next door. Their reactions as we moved and then froze were priceless.  I still laugh about the good times we shared!

 

MAIN STREET was where all our annual parades took place, whether it was the local fair in August, Homecoming in the fall or the annual Christmas parade in December.  A time for the community to gather and watch the band play, the creative floats pass by or elected Queen Parade Marshall and local dignitaries waive from a convertible.  Candy was usually thrown to the children and you didn’t worry where it came from or someone getting hurt.  Another great memory, once we were able to drive was dragging MAIN STREET, how many tanks of gas did we spend just driving up and down honking at each of our friends as we passed by?  We only could pick up one or two stations on the radio our favorite after dark being KMOA out of Oklahoma City…we would pull over in the IGA or NAPA parking lot and roll down our windows to visit with our friends or switch out passengers.  I truly have fond memories of my days on MAIN STREET.

 

As I travel I always like to try and find the MAIN STREET in the town I am visiting.  It may not actually be called MAIN STREET but it is the place where the locals hang out.  Even if I am traveling down the interstate I like to veer off and go a mile or two into the town and discover the anchor and distinctive MAIN STREET setting.  There may be a local park, an old theatre, shops, bakery and restaurants.  I love to find unique little shops with local artists or eclectic things. We live close to Grapevine, TX and they do an excellent job to provide the atmosphere I am expressing, twice a year they have big events one is MAIN STREET Days in the Spring and Grapefest is in the Fall.

 

The romance of Route 66 the Will Roger Highway is probably one of the oldest and most popular it is known as the MAIN STREET of America or the Mother Road.  Hmmm…Come to think about it for those of you who have visited Walt Disney parks whether you are at Disneyland or Magic Kingdom, they have created an atmosphere when you take your first step as you enter the park , it is right onto MAIN STREET, USA with charming store fronts; you are immediately transformed into a world of nostalgia, fantasy and magic.  What about you, what is your take on homespun MAIN STREET.  Is it worth the drive, “TAKIN TIME OUT”, to exit a few miles and experience something unique, quaint and wholesome.  Or do you prefer the fast paced mega big box metropolis?

 

While “Takin Time Out” this week, why not explore even if it is on the internet some of America’s Greatest MAIN STREETS…here are a few you might like to check out:

 

  • Salado, TX
  • Fredricksburg, TX
  • Wimberley, TX
  • Grapevine, TX
  • McKinney, TX
  • Georgetown, TX
  • Eureka Springs, AR
  • Hot Springs, AR
  • Natchitoches, LA
  • Sausalito, CA
  • Annapolis, MD
  • Collierville, TN

 

I would love to hear from you as well and you’re favorite MAIN STREET, USA.   I am sipping on my cup of Hot China Tip Green tea; I feel a sense of pride when I am able to support my local merchants. “Shop Local, Eat Local, Spend Local and Enjoy Local – Support the Local Businesses, who support the area where you live, work and play!” (or visit) Until next time my dear friends….Enjoy a little more of MAIN STREET, USA

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SAVOR

imageDefinition: a characteristic taste, flavor, or smell, especially a pleasant one.  A distinctive quality or sensation.

This week’s word brings so much excitement, my brain is thinking so much faster than my little fingers can type.  I decided to take ten “S” words and add the word SAVOR to them bringing a bit more meaning and life to each one.   It portrays the art of slowing down, to be more mindful and immerse yourself into the presence of NOW…So let’s begin!

 

 

 

1)   SAVOR SENSES:  When I hear the word SAVOR four of my five senses come alive, I have a tingling all over, my sense of smell is more distinct, my eyes become more focused and my taste buds and mouth begin to water.  As I am sitting at my computer I have rosemary chicken in the oven, garlic mashed potatoes, fresh green beans, fresh green salad and hot rolls all ready.  The kitchen’s aroma is filled with a scrumptious batch of diced apples, fresh orange peel, cinnamon and nutmeg simmering on the stove top, I am getting ready to make an apple crisp for my neighbor who just had surgery.  What brings your taste buds to life?  Maybe it is a succulent glass of your favorite wine; do you prefer red, white or blush?  Some of you may prefer a fresh cup of coffee, latte or cappuccino but personally for me I love scrumptious flavors of hot tea.  As I am sipping on a cup of Chai tea with fresh cream it is delish…   I have a very good friend who has a sweet tooth, she loves dark chocolate and has a habit of plopping a square in her mouth and letting it slowly melt not chewing but SAVORING every moment as it dissolves.  She said you can taste the distinct ingredients this way.  Whether you prefer to SAVOR salt or sugary things, we all need to slow down enjoy and SAVOR our food more…let’s not rush through our next meal but maybe think about as we chew and give thanks for the farmer who planted the seeds and harvested the goods…to the one who packaged and delivered it to the store…to the one who placed it on the shelf, rack or bin…to the one who helped check you out at the store or carried it to your car…to the one who prepared it even if it was YOU.  Let’s SAVOR every step and give thanks we are such an abundant nation to have so many bountiful blessings, fresh produce and variety delicious SAVORING foods.  Pause…breathe deeply…think about what changes you want to make to really enjoy and SAVOR your meals.  It will be good for your digestive system to actually chew, slowing down and SAVOR the flavor; it can be an amazing experience!

 

2)  SAVOR the Season: Fall is in the air, pumpkins are everywhere and leaves may be turning in your part of the country.  Think of Seasons being moods in the year… and SAVOR the energy each one brings when we change with the season we become more in tune with nature and the way God intended our life to be.  The times at which the seasons turn are particularly powerful, as a Christian our holy days are Christmas and Easter which are close to the winter solstice and spring equinox.  Let’s SAVOR more the twenty-first day of March, June, September and December.  Why not use this time to contemplate the season that’s winding down and the one unfolding.  Maybe you need to clean out or pare down, change your wardrobe or de-clutter all that stuff that is weighing you down, holding you back or is it mental/physical areas you need to work on? Think of it as a wheel of fortune…Change-of-season can give you a renewed energy to SAVOR the season and start again!

 

3)   SAVOR SELF (Yourself):  This one is really important!  Maybe you need to SAVOR more solitude, “TAKIN TIME OUT” to think, pray, meditate or just plain stare into space.  Breathing deeply, slowly and holding it in counting to 10 and slowly letting it out.  When is the last time you took in a BIG OLE Belly breath and being more aware of how shallow or how deep you breathe…SAVOR  your breath!  SAVOR the Silence & Solitude, I love early mornings before anyone is up including the birds and listening to the rare moments and quirkiness of our home, the air conditioner popping on, the tree branch swaying on the side of the house the stillness yes if you listen really carefully the stillness has a distinct sound. That is truly my time with God…no distractions just he and I carrying on a conversation…reading his word.  In my devotion this week these words really resonated with me “In quietness and confidence shall be your strength.  When you’re in a tough situation, your mind tends to go into overdrive that is when you need to lean on me, I am with you”.  I love these two verses;

Psalm 62:5 “Find rest, O my soul, in God alone.”

Luke 5:16 “Jesus often withdrew to lonely (solitude) places and prayed.”

 

4)   SAVOR Simplicity:  Let’s count our blessing of the Simple things in life we so often take for granted.  How many of you have read the book Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach.  It is a daybook of comfort and Joy, one I read year after year.  I love when things are simple and you are content.  It is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have.  SAVOR the simplest of things!  How many of you love to read…when I find a good book I love to SAVOR each and every page imagining I am right there with each character as we travel through the storyline, when I have finished I always feel I have lost a good friend.  What are a few of your favorite books you have read lately?  Then there are always movies, a good one that captures your interest I love to SAVOR every line some may be suspenseful while others may make you laugh or cry…let’s learn to SAVOR and enjoy entertainment a little bit more.

 

5)   SAVOR Soul Mates/Sista’s/Sinners:  This could encompass all of your loved ones whether they are your family or friends.  When is the last time you got together with the ones you love?  Did you really embrace and SAVOR the time you shared? Were you distracted with responsibility, pettiness, or envy?  Were you pleased, proud and SAVORING the precious time you had together?  Think back to riding in the car when your teenagers first began driving, what about the first real job you had and opening up the first paycheck or maybe playing checkers or wahoo with your great grandpa, drinking coke out of a jelly jar and listening to Paul Harvey on the radio?  SAVOR the memories of your childhood…There is so much tragedy in this world, sickness, disease, accidents that caused sudden injury or death…think about this past week or month and how the dynamics of either your specific circumstances or a friends have changed.  You never truly know what tomorrow will bring that is why it is so important to live in the NOW and SAVOR this specific time.  I also feel strongly it is important to tell those you care most deeply about how much you love and care about them.  SAVOR the snuggle time or holding that tiny infant, holding your soul-mates hand or playing footsie under the table.    Simple SAVORING Acts of Kindness…leaving a handwritten note, sending a text or surprise them with something small and simple or most importantly your time!

This weekend we actually will have the privilege of celebrating with my husband’s grandmother, “Granny Burns” who is 105 yes I said 105th birthday…can you imagine how she has SAVORED each and every day through her life?  The cool thing is she is a little hard of hearing, but can carry on a conversation and is in tune with everything going on in this world today…Simply Amazing!

6)   SAVOR SATURDAY AND SUNDAYS:  Usually I have cleaning and errands to run but I love the freedom and flexibility the weekends bring!  Saturday’s are full of grandkid’s soccer games and Sunday’s bring us opportunity to go to church and treat it as a special day of rest, relaxation and renewal.  “TAKIN TIME OUT “ you might say!  We try and have our family over for Sunday dinner, a time we can all be together around the dinner table SAVORING scrumptious food, laughter and fun!  Having adult conversations with your children, listening the good times and sharing even the bad but hopefully makin precious memories…

 

7)   SAVOR SLEEP:  There is nothing better than a good solid night sleep.  As I have gotten older my sleep patterns very from night to night.  Especially when I am extremely busy at work and several things on my mind, I wake up and I try to give it to the Lord but my flesh sometimes takes control and well you know what I mean you just don’t sleep. Naps can be good too, I love a good power nap, my Grandpa Charlie would always sleep sitting up in his chair right after lunch it would only take 10 or 15 minutes and he was good to go for the rest of the day!

 

8)   SAVOR SILLYNESS:  This does not come naturally for me but I love nothing more than a good belly laugh and being silly on occasion.  Especially while spending time with my grandchildren and girlfriends, you know we just wanna have fun!

 

9)   SAVOR SERVING:  I was designed by God with a servant’s heart and love nothing more than when I am serving others.  I do SAVOR each and every moment and cherish the opportunities I have been able to be the hand and feet of Jesus.  I love the quote by Maya Angelou “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Also, Mother Teresa left this world such a better place and one of her quotes resonates in my mind “Not all of us can do great things.  But we can do small things with great love.”  SAVOR the times you can serve or be served…

 

10)  SAVOR SATISFACTION :  Let’s be more content and satisfied with where we are and who we are, it’s ok to strive to improve but don’t be discouraged or focus on the negative when things don’t always turn out the way you want.  Life is a journey, there are lessons to be learned, experiences to endure, tests, trials, temptations and distractions. Our bodies change, they may become a little more fluffy but more of you to love let’s vow to SAVOR today!

 

Thich Nhat Hanh made a profound statement “Many people are alive but don’t touch the miracle of being alive”.  Please read that statement again very slowly; where are you in life?  While “TAKIN TIME OUT” this week let’s reflect on that statement are you truly being alive or are you just existing?  Are you truly SAVORING every moment?  I really think I will make SAVOR, my word of the year for 2015…slow down no more rushing, re-prioritize and be less busy until next time I would love to hear your “S” word for SAVOR.  SAVORING takes practice, you have to hit the pause button..  I encourage you this week to SAVOR the present and let’s make a difference in being more alive…

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